flat out...REJECTED

so just when you think a date went REALLY well, think again....you could be prime for being caught victim to the "blind sighted rejection"

after what i thought was a fab date with this guy 2 weeks ago, i follow-up with a "i'm finally heading back from my vacation, wanna hang monday or friday?" and i was met with a surprising, "probably not, really swamped."

BOOM. there you have it - the REJECTION. none of this "cant but another time" business, just a flat out rejection.

in the crazy world of dating, i have both received and dished out so many of these flat out rejections that sadly i have become so desensitized by them that i no longer fear rejection....perhaps, that is why i feel so confident in approaching and asking out men. if there is no fear of being straight up rejected, why not be bold?

imagine though if he had just said what he was thinking, "um, why are you still bothering me? i dont like you, and i actually never want to hang out with you, let alone see you again!" things would be much more clear then!!! i guess passive/aggressive though is really the more proper dating rejection etiquette. let's see:

1) "it's not you, it's me"
2) "i really do think you are amazing, but i just don't want a relationship now."
3) "i have so much going on right now with work, i just cant make the time...wish i could"
4) "i really want to make this work, but i just don't think we can."

---passive aggressive, but in the end, you have been flat out REJECTED!---